inspirational-quote-michelangelo-sunriseHey everybody it’s Vanessa Simpkins A.K.A “Queen V “( I’ve been chatting about in this silly little british queen of England Accent for the last little while and I quite like her she’s cheeky and fun)  I’m on a plane right now some little 7 yr old girl just said to me “wow you’re so big!” don’t kids say the darndest things but it’s true! I am BIG I’m 6”2 and I’m about to get a whole lot bigger!


My good friend and colleague Lisa Lajoie dropped this little bomb in a conversation we had one day she said “Vanessa quit negotiating your desires” we were talking about men and relationships and I thought to myself WOW! You really hit it on the nail on the head with that one!

How many of the things that you REALY want in life are you widdling away, pushing aside and making excuses for why you can’t have them – or can’t have them just yet?

  • Your income
  • Your relationships
  • Your Living Situation
  • Your career
  • A trip around the world
  • Living in another country
  • Rolling around naked in warm chocolate…

(hey we’ve all got a ton of fun fabulous fantasies! and why leave them at fantasies?)


Here’s how to close the door on NEGOTIATING your bloody life away and show up and say YES to creating a life that you LOVE!

 Make a list of the things you are NO LONGER willing to put up with, I call it my “cut the bloody crap list! Cut it right out!

These are things I am no longer willing to do (like simple admin tasks in my biz time to outsourve more to my VA’s) to cleaning and packing (I hired a wonderful women named Emily to help me pack for my trip just a few days ago we found the NASTIEST massive freaking TOAD in my closet OMY GOD I LAUGHED so hard I laughed until I was out of breath watch the video here —> get ready to laugh your bloddy pants off!)  

What are you no longer willing to negotiate?

Close The Door To What You Don’t Want So You Can SAY YES to What You Do Want

 You see I’ve been doing some testing ( you know me I’m always testing everything out like a mad scientist) and I’ve come to realize that you can’t keep holding onto one thing in your life is you really want another.

You must close the door on the thing you don’t want so you can make space and open up to what you DO want…

So make a decision to stop NEGOTIATING your desires away…STOP IT! Right now!

I was having this conversation with Lisa about men and attitudes and the kind of men I want to be dating. I had done the previous night a very powerful termination of agreements process on some of the patterns I was seeing show up again and agian in my life that I was done with. No more nincompoop men, no more broken men, no more dark men needing fixing, no more addiction, men with issues, no more dissapointing men, angry men, nasty men, lazy, unhealthy broke ass incompatible men… ( well I tell you there was a long list!) anyways the very next morning I met a wonderful man named Jeff on the beach can you imagine?!

We had a fabulous time together paddle boarding, enjoying an active lifestyle on Kauai with my little dog Houdini and got along like a house on fire!

Terminating Old Agreements

 I’ve been sharing this powerful process with my clients on a group call I did and all 4 women on the call attracted more money within 48 hours! One client closed her first high paying client for $4500, another up leveld her prices and got a $1000 deposit, yet another client booked in sales calls something she has been procrastinating about and yet another closed her first paying coaching client! Amazing gains after doing this process.

I am more and more clear and certain that ALL of our power comes from our ability to decide a new decision for ourselves and I am super excited to be sharing with you this amazing process and all of the ideas, belief and mindset shifts that I’ve been putting into practice over the last 4 years. I’ve put it all together for you in my new book “Take Your Power Back NOW!” A woman’s Ultimate guide to confidence, how to overcome your internal resistance to creating a life you love!

Stay tuned … it’s coming soon!

In the meantime I am here to support your growth and expansion into a WHOLE NEW YOU by stopping negotiating the important things. Taking a STAND for who and what you want to become int his world. I love you!

I’d love to hear from you… what are you no longer willing to negotiate? Post your comments below.

To Your Love, Expansion & Freedom,

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